“So sometimes she’d get sick and that kind of made me worried. Like, ‘Oh,
it’s getting worse,’ you know. I knew she was taking the pills, but I didn’t know.
I thought that was supposed to make her better. And then when she got nauseous
because of it, you know, it kind of made me worry.” (12 year old son)


Many of us believe we can guess what a child thinks about and wants to know when someone in their family has cancer. However, many children have worries and concerns that come as a big surprise to their parents. A child may be unsure about whether it is OK to talk about the cancer. As one 8 year old boy put it, “Well, I was kind of nervous that she might get mad at me for asking her something about the cancer.”

Younger children especially may not have the articulation skills to ask questions or verbalize their worries. This can result in the child creating a “fantasy” about what is happening and what will happen, that is far more frightening than reality. The words of this 12 year old girl underscore this fear, “I wondered if it would end up the same as what happened with my grandma-if (my mother) would die.”

Parents with cancer face many challenges, not the least of which is trying to talk to their school-age child about the cancer. Parents want to be open and honest about the cancer, but don’t want to scare their child. They work to find the balance between truthfulness and hope. This is often difficult to do when the parent is juggling doctor appointments, treatment side effects like fatigue and nausea and their own emotional responses to what is happening to them.

Cancer Lifeline’s Kids’ and Parents’ Group provides children and parents with an opportunity to get support and assistance when a parent has cancer. Kids talk about their experiences through sharing circles, art projects, and puppetry. They also learn ways to take care of themselves. Essentially, kids have a safe place to talk about their feelings, they feel less isolated, enhance their coping skills and increase their understanding of the illness, its causes and treatment.

The concurrent group for adults, the Parents’ Group, provides an opportunity to talk about the challenges of parenting a child when a family member is ill and to share the experience with other adults having a similar experience. Additionally, parents learn skills to help them to respond to their child’s expressed concerns and worries as well as changes in their child’s behavior. A mom who had attended the group had this to say about the benefit to her, “I told my kids all about my upcoming surgery, and it went really well! It went much better than I thought it would. And I owe it all to all of you.”

Please contact Mary Ellen Shands at (206) 832-1279 to reserve your place for our upcoming Kids’ and Parents’ Group.

Our board member, Tina Nole with Twisted Scholar is the producer of UW Medicine’s Pulse Podcast. She shared a recent episode with us which featured a discussion about Palliative Care. Palliative Care is a specialty service that provides an extra layer of support for patients and is appropriate at any age and at any stage of a serious illness. Tune in to Pulse Podcast as guests Darrell Owens D.N.P., A.R.N.P., Randy Curtis, M.D., M.P.H. and our friend Debra Jarvis discuss this wonderful service.

This fall Cancer Lifeline will present “Palliative Care: An Important Component of Cancer Treatment” at EvergreenHealth in Kirkland. Contact info@cancerlifeline.org to request a class catalog. Registration opens on August 26th at www.cancerlifeline.org.

Outpatient Palliative Care



Facilitator:      Stephanie Mehl, RN, MS

Date & Time: Thursday, September 26, 6:30-8:30 pm

Location:        Cancer Lifeline, Dorothy O’Brien Center, 6522 Fremont Ave. North, Seattle, 98103


Join us for this moving and thought provoking film, followed by a discussion with time for questions and answers. “Motivated by their personal experiences with loss, two long-time friends – one a hospice worker and the other a teacher- present a powerful and inspiring film on the American struggle with communication and preparation at life’s end. Consider the Conversation examines multiple perspectives on end-of-life care and includes interviews with patients, family members, doctors, nurses, clergy, social workers and national experts from around the country. The film’s goal is to inspire dialogue between patient and doctor, husband and wife, parent and child, minister and parishioner. This is not a story about death; it’s a film about living life to its fullest.”

Call For Voluneers

September 20, 2013

“Those who make compassion an essential part of their lives find the joy of life. Kindness deepens the spirit and produces rewards that cannot be completely explained in words. It is an experience more powerful than words. To become acquainted with kindness one must be prepared to learn new things and feel new feelings. Kindness is more than a philosophy of the mind. It is a philosophy of the spirit.” Robert J. Furey, Author


Call for Volunteers

Position:  Lifeline Volunteer

Location:  Offsite from your home workspace

Our 24 hour telephone Lifeline provides emotional support and resource referrals for all people living with cancer through all stages of the cancer journey: patients, survivors, friends, family members, caregivers and co-workers.  Volunteer must be comfortable listening to profound emotions and have ability to be a good listener, able to provide non-judgmental support to others, and understand that listening does not equate to giving advice or fixing.


Volunteering Requirements:

  • Volunteer  must have access to the internet and a phone to connect remotely to the  Lifeline
  • Respond to calls on the 24-hour Lifeline with emotional support and resource information to clients, including registering clients for Cancer Lifeline programs.
  • Helps clients register for Cancer Lifeline classes using web based registration program
  • Fill out call logs and other required reporting
  • Participate in four Lifeline in-service meetings per year
  • One year volunteer commitment
  • Advance notice (2-3 months) of plans to leave Lifeline Program

Training Requirements: You will need to participate in a 30-hour weekend training program on October 5, October 6, October 19 and October 26.  After training, you will be asked to take up to four daytime shifts per month:

Mondays:  1pm – 6pm

Wednesdays:  9am – 1pm

Fridays:  9am – 1pm

Fridays: 1pm – 6pm Saturdays:  1pm – 6pm

Sundays:  9am – 1pm

If you are interested in volunteering for this very important work, please contact Meghan Wilkins Melanson at Cancer Lifeline. She can be reached at mwilkins@cancerlifeline.org or 206-832-1296.


Fall is the time when the vast majority of employers, including most of the areas’ largest, hold their annual workplace giving campaigns. Some even start a little early, such as UPS, which started in July.

The exception to this rule is that the following companies have spring/early summer campaign dates: Virginia Mason Hospital, Seattle Seahawks/Sounders FC , Seattle Times, Fisher Communications, Target and Pemco.

While United Way of King County is appreciative of all gifts. they do ask that you pledge $30 or more  to keep administrative costs low. Remember, in addition to gifts through United Way, you can always make gifts directly to Cancer Lifeline!

To find out when your employers’ workplace giving campaign starts contact your Human Resources department or your campaign coordinator.

If you have any questions about how to designate Cancer Lifeline on your workplace giving form, please call Jeanne Lamont at 206-832-1273 or JLamont@cancerlifeline.

Save The Date!

August 7, 2013

Thai Siam Restaurant 26th Annual Benefit Dinner

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Noon to 8:30 pm

8305 15th Ave NW Seattle, WA 98117

Each year, Thai Siam hosts an anniversary party where the proceeds go to local non-profit agencies. Again this year, Cancer Lifeline and Union Gospel Mission will be beneficiaries.

At last year’s event, nearly 800 people showed up and the event raised over $30,000! The dinner includes an all you can eat Thai menu buffet, traditional thai music and dancers, and local artists.

The cost is $27.00 for adults and $7.00 for kids under 12. For more information about the restaurant, please visit thaisiamrestaurant.com. See you there!



You don’t have to be a kid – or bring one – to attend this fun and fragrant class on herb gardening. Herbs are a key culinary ingredient for anyone who is trying to prepare as much of their own fresh, healthy food at home. The addition of fresh herbs makes the simplest steamed vegetable or baked filet appetizing to the most sensitive palates. But at $3 per pack at most grocery stores, keeping them on hand is prohibitively expensive.

Solution? Grow your own! Herbs are essential denizens of any garden, no matter how small. Even a sunny windowsill will sustain many herbs year-round. We will have seeds available for planting at this class for the herbs listed below. Additionally, along with your newly planted herbs, you will take home simple, economical, delicious recipes to try once your seedlings sprout into something a little more substantial.

Kris is a seasoned instructor. A longtime teacher in Cancer Lifeline’s Exercise & Movement program, she has focused her efforts in the gardening realm since 2010. She completed Oregon Tilth’s Organic Gardening Certification Program that year, and Oregon State University’s Master Gardener Program in 2011. Since that time, Kris has taught garden education to students aged 3 to 93, and delights in inspiring them to cultivate their own gardening potential.

Please click here to register for H is for Herbs. See you there!

Thai Basil

Dill, Thai Basil, Genovese Basil, Cilantro, Sweet Marjoram, Russian Tarragon, English Broadleaf Thyme, Italian Parsley


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